“A house divided against itself cannot stand.” – Abraham Lincoln

Throughout life, we encounter many different types of people—some who uplift us, some who challenge us, and some who drain us. But of all the different classifications, one stands out as the most dangerous: Dividers.

I’ve had my fair share of experiences with all kinds of people, but if there’s one group that has done the most damage in my life, it’s Dividers. These are the people who work against you, whether subtly or outright. They cause conflict, plant seeds of doubt, and disrupt progress. The worst part? They often come disguised as friends, family, or even mentors.

Let’s break down how to recognize them, why they always seem to show up when you’re making progress, and—most importantly—how to protect yourself from their influence.

Who Are Dividers?

Dividers are people who intentionally or unintentionally create separation in your life. They divide relationships, dreams, and focus. They pull you away from what you’re working toward by sowing negativity, doubt, or chaos.

They don’t always come as obvious enemies. Sometimes, they show up as:

✅ “Concerned” family members who tell you to play it safe instead of chasing your dreams.
✅ “Supportive” friends who subtly discourage you with phrases like, “Are you sure you can handle that?” or “That seems risky.”
✅ “Mentors” or bosses who try to keep you in your current position because they don’t want to lose control over you.
✅ Toxic partners who make you feel guilty for wanting more out of life.

At first, their words may seem harmless, but over time, their influence can pull you off track and keep you from becoming who you’re meant to be.

Why Do Dividers Show Up When You’re Making Progress?

If you’ve ever noticed that Dividers seem to appear the moment you start making progress, that’s no coincidence.

💡 Growth exposes insecurity – When you level up, it reminds people of what they’re NOT doing in their own lives. Instead of fixing their own situation, they’d rather pull you back down.

💡 They feed off control – Dividers thrive on keeping others in a position where they feel needed or superior. When you outgrow their influence, they feel threatened.

💡 They use manipulation – Whether through guilt, fear, or subtle discouragement, they’ll do whatever it takes to keep you from advancing.

💡 They test your discipline – Some Dividers don’t even realize they’re doing it. Their negativity, doubt, and distractions are simply a reflection of their own limitations.

But here’s the truth: The moment you start recognizing their influence and removing them from your life, you take back control.

How to Protect Yourself from Dividers

If you want to stay focused and reach your full potential, you have to cut out Dividers immediately. Here’s how:

1. Recognize the Warning Signs

🚨 They discourage you from pursuing goals, often in a “concerned” way.
🚨 They gossip, stir up drama, or talk negatively about others.
🚨 They create unnecessary conflicts that drain your energy.
🚨 They constantly remind you of your past failures instead of your potential.
🚨 They downplay your achievements or make you feel guilty for them.

Once you recognize these patterns, it’s time to take action.

2. Set Clear Boundaries

✅ Stop sharing your dreams and plans with people who won’t support them.
✅ Limit time with Dividers—physically, emotionally, and mentally.
✅ Distance yourself from drama and negative energy.
✅ Cut off relationships that no longer serve your growth.

3. Surround Yourself with Multipliers

Multipliers are the opposite of Dividers—they uplift, encourage, and challenge you to be better. They add to your life instead of taking away from it.

Spend your energy on people who:
✔ Celebrate your growth
✔ Hold you accountable
✔ Push you toward greatness
✔ Speak life into your dreams

What If You’re the Divider?

We all have moments where we’ve acted as Dividers—whether through negativity, jealousy, or discouragement. The key is to recognize it, own it, and change it.

🔄 If you’ve ever discouraged someone from chasing their dreams, make it right.
🔄 If you’ve spread negativity, work on shifting your mindset.
🔄 If you’ve been holding someone back, let them go and let them grow.

Being aware of our own behaviors is the first step toward real change.

Final Thoughts

Dividers are the most dangerous people you will ever encounter because they don’t always show their true colors upfront. They creep into your circle, disguised as friends, family, or supporters, but their real goal is to keep you stagnant.

🚫 They need to go.

You have one life, and you are responsible for protecting your peace, energy, and progress. The more you cut out Dividers and surround yourself with Multipliers, the faster you’ll get to where you’re meant to be.

💡 Remember: Not everyone deserves a seat at your table. Choose wisely.

🔥 It’s time to move forward, no distractions.

🔹 Have you encountered Dividers in your life? How did you handle it? Drop a comment and let’s talk about it.

🚀 Stay locked in. Stay focused. Keep grinding.